I used to be novus ordo and thought just like your mother. I'm very very ashamed to admit it and to remember it. The real fanatics are those who participate in the de-Catholicization of the Church, such as your mother with her mentality. A true Catholic mother would weep for joy that her child strives so hard to be holy.
Just goes to show how UN-Catholic the novus ordo sect is.
In the Examination of Conscience (1st Commandment) I can see several instances where your mother is transgressing and should confess herself
First Commandment: I am the Lord thy God. Thou shalt not have strange gods before Me. (Including sins against Faith, Hope and Charity)
Have I neglected the knowledge of my faith as taught in the catechism, such as the Apostles’ Creed, the Ten Commandments, the Seven Sacraments, the Our Father, etc.?
Have I deliberately doubted or denied any of the teachings of the Church?
Have I taken part in any non-Catholic worship?
Am I a member of any non-Catholic religious organization, secret society or anti-Catholic group?
Have I knowingly read any heretical, blasphemous or anti-Catholic literature?
Have I practiced any superstitions (such as horoscopes, fortune telling, Ouija board, etc.)?
Have I omitted religious duties or practices through motives of human respect?
Have I recommended myself daily to God?
Have I been faithful to my daily prayers?
Have I abused the Sacraments in any way? Received them irreverently, e.g. Communion in the Hand without obeying the principles and the 7 rules promulgated by Paul VI as binding in this matter?
Have I made fun of God, Our Lady, the Saints, the Church, the Sacraments, other holy things?
Have I been guilty of great irreverence in church, e.g., conversation, behavior, or dress?
Have I been indifferent with regard to my Catholic Faith — believing one can be saved in any religion, that all religions are equal?
Have I presumed on God´s mercy at any time?
Have I despaired of God´s mercy?
Have I hated God?
Have I given too much importance to any creature, activity, object or opinion?
How often to go? Remember the tremendous grace that flows from this sacrament. We should avail ourselves of as many sacraments as possible, and certainly the continuous purifcation of our soul that frequent confession brings.
He will reward you greatly for your love and devotion. Keep doing what you're doing and the only voice you should listen to is His, Who calls you to His Sacred Heart. How blessed you are that you can hear His voice and that you respond!