I would agree with others, that a predetermined and unconditional decision to birth at home is simply stupid, and it belies a harmful arrogance.
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Birth at home if everyone is healthy to do so, and include a professional (midwife). Prior to marriage, the husband doesn't even know the reproductive health of his wife or of his unborn child(ren). And medical decisions are, by definition, subjective. You make them case by case, given the information and evidence available for you/your wife/child. It's one thing to have an ideal, it's another thing to draw lines in the sand blindly.
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Childbirth is not the only concern here. What other bad ideas does the husband have about health? I'm not talking about matters of controversy, I'm talking about his rejection of medical professionals as such. Is he going to allow his wife and children to brush their teeth (I recall a family who religiously refused teeth brushing, and all of their kids teeth were rotting out of their head by age seven or so)? Can they go to the ER if they're sick or injured? Serious questions. It's patently false that all O.B.'s perform abortions (in fact, we had the pleasure of a Catholic O.B., prolife, with many children of his own). Yet it hasn't stopped the man from making very dramatic, predetermined conclusions about the matter despite how obviously false it is. What other bad ideas does he have?
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I do allow for the possibility that the OP's friend is blowing things out of proportion. What's being described sounds like a caricature. But I'll leave aside any serious efforts of questioning the credibility of those involved, we'll leave it at a simple mention.
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