I would agree with others, that a predetermined and unconditional decision to birth at home is simply stupid, and it belies a harmful arrogance.
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Birth at home if everyone is healthy to do so, and include a professional (midwife).  Prior to marriage, the husband doesn't even know the reproductive health of his wife or of his unborn child(ren).  And medical decisions are, by definition, subjective.  You make them case by case, given the information and evidence available for you/your wife/child.  It's one thing to have an ideal, it's another thing to draw lines in the sand blindly.
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Childbirth is not the only concern here.  What other bad ideas does the husband have about health?  I'm not talking about matters of controversy, I'm talking about his rejection of medical professionals as such.  Is he going to allow his wife and children to brush their teeth (I recall a family who religiously refused teeth brushing, and all of their kids teeth were rotting out of their head by age seven or so)?  Can they go to the ER if they're sick or injured?  Serious questions.  It's patently false that all O.B.'s perform abortions (in fact, we had the pleasure of a Catholic O.B., prolife, with many children of his own).  Yet it hasn't stopped the man from making very dramatic, predetermined conclusions about the matter despite how obviously false it is.  What other bad ideas does he have?
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I do allow for the possibility that the OP's friend is blowing things out of proportion.  What's being described sounds like a caricature.  But I'll leave aside any serious efforts of questioning the credibility of those involved, we'll leave it at a simple mention.
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In certain states, if parents refuse the mandatory Hib at the birth of their child, the state CPS can be called and the child can be taken away from the parents, injected with all the mandatory vaccines, and possibly not even returned to the parents.
Perhaps that is why this potential husband seems unhinged.

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Which ones?  That's not the sort of thing a person says vaguely, unless they're trying to scare-monger.  This is the sort of information where specifics must be given.
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Which ones?  That's not the sort of thing a person says vaguely, unless they're trying to scare-monger.  This is the sort of information where specifics must be given.
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Mith, I'm not the one who posted that, but I've looked into the topic a lot. As far as I know, there is no state that requires newborns to have the shot. However, many hospitals will refuse to let you have your baby there if you refuse the shot. Too, it is not uncommon for healthcare workers to lie about this, or to make you believe it is required. Many will resort to scare tactics, which should always be taken seriously. If you refuse the vaccine, it's not that uncommon for the hospital social worker to accuse you of medical neglect. Even if you aren't required by law to give it, refusing it will incite them to press charges on you and they will often win by unfair and dishonest tactics. Once your child is in custody of the state, at least in Kansas, they can and will inject your child with many vaccines against your consent. 
So be very careful about your choice of hospital. Get the vaccine question settled well in advance and steer clear of hospitals with this kind of ethos. I know people first hand who have went through this horror. It pays to do research, and have an attorney ready in an instant.

I was vague for a reason.

If you want to avoid scare mongering, then it is important for the girl to search her own state, ask the hospitals, and get advice from a GYN.

She will have to do her own homework.

Mith, I'm not the one who posted that, but I've looked into the topic a lot. As far as I know, there is no state that requires newborns to have the shot. However, many hospitals will refuse to let you have your baby there if you refuse the shot. Too, it is not uncommon for healthcare workers to lie about this, or to make you believe it is required. Many will resort to scare tactics, which should always be taken seriously. If you refuse the vaccine, it's not that uncommon for the hospital social worker to accuse you of medical neglect. Even if you aren't required by law to give it, refusing it will incite them to press charges on you and they will often win by unfair and dishonest tactics. Once your child is in custody of the state, at least in Kansas, they can and will inject your child with many vaccines against your consent.
So be very careful about your choice of hospital. Get the vaccine question settled well in advance and steer clear of hospitals with this kind of ethos. I know people first hand who have went through this horror. It pays to do research, and have an attorney ready in an instant.

Excellent & important post. 

Just a little trick for the HepB vaccine ... to stay off the radar.  Don't tell them you're anti-vax.  Just say that you prefer to delay the shot until after the child's immune system develops a little more, especially from ingesting colostrum.  Just tell them that you feel that it's rather early given the immature state of the baby's immune system.  Tell them you'll schedule it with your pediatrician when you're ready.  Avoids the "anti-vax" red flag and gets you out of there.  To make it a proper mental reservation, vs. a lie:  "I would prefer to wait [indefinitely] on the HepB vaccine, until after [infinitely after] the child's immune system develops a little more in the wake of the colostrum from nursing.  When we're ready [aka never], we'll schedule it with our pediatrician."

Just some comments from another forum out there on the web:

Apr 26, 2012 at 12:34 PM
Futuremommy11
@hopetobe42012I'm Pro-vaccine but also want to give my baby's immune system a little time to develop. I got vaccinated myself because I'm an RN. I understand risk of transmission but my sons will be very very low as I will be a sahm after birth and my husband is vaccinated as well. I'm ok with vitamin k shot at birth but will continue to look at preventing unnecessary procedures and shots.


Apr 26, 2012 at 12:43 PM
mamakate08
@Futuremommy11I am pro vaccine but I always delay that one. This is #4 for me.

Just a little trick for the HepB vaccine ... to stay off the radar.  Don't tell them you're anti-vax.  Just say that you prefer to delay the shot until after the child's immune system develops a little more, especially from ingesting colostrum.  Just tell them that you feel that it's rather early given the immature state of the baby's immune system.  Tell them you'll schedule it with your pediatrician when you're ready.  Avoids the "anti-vax" red flag and gets you out of there.  To make it a proper mental reservation, vs. a lie:  "I would prefer to wait [indefinitely] on the HepB vaccine, until after [infinitely after] the child's immune system develops a little more in the wake of the colostrum from nursing.  When we're ready [aka never], we'll schedule it with our pediatrician."

Just some comments from another forum out there on the web:

That is fantastic advice!
 I am sorry I could not include all details with the original post, but the young woman referred to is not an acquaintance of mine but a real friend, so she frequently asks my advice and has expressed concerns with marrying this man for other reasons already, so this could be a deal breaker for her. I have not had a chance to talk to her about this specifically but wanted to be ready with the correct advice. 
As to the vaccine issue and hospitals, it is a pain to have to wrestle with pushy nurses after you have your baby but it’s not impossible. If you know your stuff. I know cause I’ve done it! No poison for my newborn, sorry Doc!
That’s why I like Ladislaus’ trick in saying you are delaying, instead of having to endure the imminent storm from even breathing the word ‘anti-vax’, but again it’s not an impossible situation at this point. Unless your hospital is nαzι about it there’s no reason to exclude an OB, a crew of nurses, and advanced equipment for exclusive homebirth. 
Both options should be available to the woman that is my only point here and why I asked the question in the first place. I don’t think that home birth is the only option for Traditional Catholic families and it shouldn’t be forced on an unwilling woman either. Which in this case looks like it will be. 

Sorry Ladislaus I used your post to address several other posters here too  :D