My wife had reported to me that in her Catechism classes he was often rude and insulting. I explained this as him being foreign and culture clash. There were a few incidents during our marriage classes where he was offhandly flippant...now looking back it was disrespectful...So I told him that I was trying to have a tradition Catholic wedding in our parish...(which is hours away). I have gone through all the steps necessary, and that I would find a new priest and a new church if needed. I said that I don't know why he is choosing to act this way, but this is not the way I would expect a SSPX priest to act about marriage.(friends in other parishes said they had none of these issues) He agreed to our original wedding date and proposed time.
15 years and many children later, we are very happily married. The priest was rotated out a year later and haven't seen him since.
Perhaps arguing with the priest isn't the solution, but laying down and getting abused (as you describe) isn't the answer either. So what is the real problem, and the answer to that problem?
The SSPX superiors should be dealing with complaints properly. They should be disciplining their priests, and not just rotating them to another parish.
But the problem is that the SSPX is A) ambitious and B) greedy. If they sent a priest to a monastery, or even removed him from public ministry, that's one chapel that wouldn't be taking up collections for months or years! The SSPX, which wants MONEY/POWER as a PRIMARY GOAL, would never stand for that.
They are going downhill in this area too. In other words, they're committing worse and worse sins for the sake of "continuity" and keeping the money rolling in.
As the neo-SSPX sees it, each priest is a "product" who represents a revenue stream. They're not going to pull any products, as that would adversely affect their bottom line.
That, in my opinion, is the real problem. The SSPX should be willing to put souls first, even if it meant losing thousands of dollars of "revenue".
How is the SSPX any different from Monsanto or some evil corporation, which is willing to hurt people for the sake of the bottom line? (Selling unhealthy products, paying off individuals to give fake "OK for human consumption" reviews, etc.)