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Good Friday family dinner
« on: April 15, 2019, 02:00:00 PM »
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  • If you’re invited to a Friday dinner by atheists, what should one do? Technically, you could just abstain from meat and attend but it feels odd to me still. It really is a sad day so it feels wrong to go ‘be merry’ with people. On the other hand, these relatives will be SUPER upset if you don’t show up. What would be best?

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    « Reply #1 on: April 15, 2019, 02:08:23 PM »
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  • They invited you to dinner on Good Friday possibly to test you. 


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    « Reply #2 on: April 15, 2019, 02:08:39 PM »
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  • Explain that you are a Catholic and explain the meaning of Good Friday along with the rules of the Church and thus you will not be eating meat on that day, but that you would be happy to visit with them on Easter or during Easter week.

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    Re: Good Friday family dinner
    « Reply #3 on: April 15, 2019, 02:10:41 PM »
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  • It's also a day of fasting.  Why are you concerned about upsetting the relatives..............they
    don''t appear to have any respect for your beliefs and obviously are not concerned with upsetting you.
    Perhaps you could be unavailable by being in church that day.  
    "Let God arise, and let His enemies be scattered: and them that hate Him flee from before His Holy Face"  Psalm 67:2[/b]


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    Re: Good Friday family dinner
    « Reply #4 on: April 15, 2019, 03:11:28 PM »
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  • I remember as a child that pretty much all of our relatives were SUPER upset with us because we reneged on pretty much everything that had to do with them. Eventually, they stopped asking. Every one of them, they all lost the faith but wanted to still be family, but my parents wouldn't go along with them. I couldn't understand what the big deal was back then, but it didn't take long to see why my parents stayed away.

    The sooner you live your convictions, the better off you'll be sooner.

     
    For a small gain they travel far; for eternal life many will scarcely lift a foot from the ground. - Thomas A Kempis


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    Re: Good Friday family dinner
    « Reply #5 on: April 15, 2019, 04:12:29 PM »
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  • They invited you to dinner on Good Friday possibly to test you.
    No, that's probably not the case. They may be just didn't know or no longer practice the Faith. For many people, Catholicism ends at their Confirmation ceremony.
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    Re: Good Friday family dinner
    « Reply #6 on: April 15, 2019, 04:23:48 PM »
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  • If you’re invited to a Friday dinner by atheists, what should one do? Technically, you could just abstain from meat and attend but it feels odd to me still. It really is a sad day so it feels wrong to go ‘be merry’ with people. On the other hand, these relatives will be SUPER upset if you don’t show up. What would be best?
    Don't go.
    I have always held that holy week, especially Good Friday, is a time of fast, abstinance, deep sorrow, and repentance.  As such, i NEVER visit anyone or go anywhere from Holy Thursday until Easter Sunday.  
    Once i explain, NO ONE has objected.  Everyone has respected my Faith.
    Faith comes before relatives.

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    « Reply #7 on: April 15, 2019, 06:30:08 PM »
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  • Politely decline and tell them why.  Go to Church instead.  If they get upset, they obviously have no respect for your beliefs.  There are simply some people who are toxic, relatives or not.  Avoid them whenever possible if you have no moral or legal obligation to them.


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    « Reply #8 on: April 15, 2019, 10:27:12 PM »
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  • I agree with the poster above who said: they have no respect for you or your religion; why concern yourself with what they think? Who cares if they are mad at you for not coming? It sounds like if they got mad and stopped speaking to you, they would be doing you a favor!

    Shake the dust off your feet and live your life as a good Catholic who actually practices his Faith.

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    Re: Good Friday family dinner
    « Reply #9 on: April 16, 2019, 08:57:04 PM »
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  • If you’re invited to a Friday dinner by atheists, what should one do? Technically, you could just abstain from meat and attend but it feels odd to me still. It really is a sad day so it feels wrong to go ‘be merry’ with people. On the other hand, these relatives will be SUPER upset if you don’t show up. What would be best?
    You can always explain that this week is a Holy Week and you will be very busy. 

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    Re: Good Friday family dinner
    « Reply #10 on: April 17, 2019, 07:54:48 PM »
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  • I totally agree with Stubborn.  These people are testing you!  I have a friend.  Her only child/son married a Jew.  They have twins sons.  When my catholic friend goes for a meal, daughter-in-law tells her to say her own meal prayers in another room.  The sign of the cross is not welcomed!

    You speak up, and say the truth!

    Last week, owe had watch tower visitors.  First at our son-in-laws home just 15 min drive from us.  My husband met them, women, and he was handed a pamphlet.  come to our meeting, she said.  My husband answers, "Oh, haven't you heard, that there is no salvation outside the catholic church?"  She grabs the pamphlet and walks off.    Then the next day, at our home, no kidding, there were these same women!  My husband answered the door, "Oh, I say you yesterday!"  she said, we were not here yesterday.  Husband:  That is right, I saw you in El Mirage and I told you that there is no salvation outside the catholic church.  She left.

    And no kidding, watchtower was sitting on our front bench, 8 years ago, Easter Sunday at 11 am waiting for our return from Mass!

    So, put some backbone to your backbone and speak up.  This is your chance and they are testing and you let them know, you are in the Catholic Church and you will live and die as a Catholic!


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    Re: Good Friday family dinner
    « Reply #11 on: April 17, 2019, 08:55:04 PM »
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  • Songbird, that reminds me of a story told by a now-deceased trad (God rest his soul).  He answered his front door one day, only to see these Jehovah Witnesses.  Blessing himself he said, "In the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost."  Then he shut the door on them.  They never came back.

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    Re: Good Friday family dinner
    « Reply #12 on: April 17, 2019, 09:05:00 PM »
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  • Songbird, that reminds me of a story told by a now-deceased trad (God rest his soul).  He answered his front door one day, only to see these Jehovah Witnesses.  Blessing himself he said, "In the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost."  Then he shut the door on them.  They never came back.
    Great idea!
    Songbird, too!

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    Re: Good Friday family dinner
    « Reply #13 on: April 18, 2019, 01:47:15 AM »
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  • Songbird, that reminds me of a story told by a now-deceased trad (God rest his soul).  He answered his front door one day, only to see these Jehovah Witnesses.  Blessing himself he said, "In the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost."  Then he shut the door on them.  They never came back.
    I remember that the Jehovah's Witnesses came to my house one day. I explained that I was a Catholic and I didn't read non Catholic literature. Somewhere along the line they asked for money. I said that I did not have any money to give go them. I never saw them again.

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    Re: Good Friday family dinner
    « Reply #14 on: April 18, 2019, 11:48:35 PM »
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  • I know of a certain Protestant whose family had that tradition of a huge meal on Good Friday. I would suggest not eating anything that day and being careful about not eating any meat that might be served. 

     

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