I think this is one of those cases where we need to refer you to a good, well-trained Catholic priest. One who was trained in the SSPX or equivalent dedicated Traditional pre-Vatican II seminary, with Thomistic philosophy and theology.
Not just any Trad priest, but one who was well trained in Thomistic moral theology. SSPX, Resistance, some Sedevacantist (Bp. Sanborn's seminary for example).
On second thought, I've met some "approved by Rome" or "convert to Tradition" priests who are either highly intelligent/educated, have a deep spiritual life, OR BOTH. The former make up quickly for lost time by burying themselves in books and quickly get up to speed. If their conversion was sincere, they quickly get into the true Catholic spirit -- they have the Faith after all -- and end up with a strong Sensus Catholicus.
But avoid garage priests/bishops, and that certainly includes anyone connected in any way to Fr. Pfeiffer in Boston, KY. Those seminarians are like "homeschooled" kids in a family with no discipline, where little-to-no schooling takes place.
Remember what St. Teresa of Avila said: she would rather have a learned confessor than a pious confessor, if she had to choose. You don't want ignorance or simplistic thinking in lieu of Catholic doctrine when it comes to a complex issue like this.