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Änσnymσus · « **on:** April 22, 2016, 05:35:55 PM »

The #1 reason wives cut off conjugal relations is anger at the husband. Angry wives can't feel emotionally connected to the husband. A woman can't be intimate with a man without having loving feelings. Please don't listen to the inevitable posts about hormones and low thyroid and supplements. Women cut off men when they are pissed off at the man usually because he isn't making her life turn out the way she imagined he would. They expect the "White Knight" thing to be true. Of they thought marriage would be like date night all the time and she's bored.

So you have to figure out what she is angry about. Sometimes a woman can be lured into talking about it in a third hand way.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #1 on:** April 22, 2016, 09:40:36 PM »

Hi all, I'm new here.

I need advise about separation from "bed and board." When spouses still live together but are in a way "separated."

My wife and I go to the SSPX and have been married for a few years, no children. We've been to two different SSPX priests for marriage counseling before, each time I asked for it. Each time it was brief with a few admonitions, but no follow up or going in depth. I felt we needed ongoing counseling (ie more than once) but had a hard time getting the priest to reschedule or follow up with how we were doing.

So I sought the advise of a secular counselor on my own, trying to be as fair as possible about our marriage. The counselor recommended we divorce. Since then we have not gotten over our main problems. Since we got married there is almost no conjugal life. She rarely talks about children or building a future family together, but I have over and over. We have minor fights (like about a bill, or spilled milk or something) and most of the time she refuses to talk or argue it through. She shuts down. There are other serious issues.

I love her very much and keep hope, but for my own sanity and spiritual life I think I may need to separate from her in some way. It would not work right now to live in different places.

Does anybody know the guidelines for separating from "bed and board"? Do I need my pastor's permission? I'm finding nothing about how to go about this, but this seems like a better solution than complete separation or worse divorce. Any feedback would be much appreciated.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #2 on:** April 23, 2016, 11:40:59 PM »

This is what Pope Francis said about separation in Amoris Laetitia;

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In some cases, respect for one’s own dignity and the good of the children requires not giving in to excessive demands or preventing a grave injustice, violence or chronic ill-treatment. In such cases, “separation becomes inevitable. At times it even becomes morally necessary, precisely when it is a matter of removing the more vulnerable spouse or young children from serious injury due to abuse and violence, from humiliation and exploitation, and from disregard and indifference”.257 Even so, “separation must be considered as a last resort, after all other reasonable attempts at reconciliation have proved vain”.258
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Änσnymσus · « **Reply #3 on:** April 26, 2016, 10:06:03 AM »

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This is what Pope Francis said about separation in Amoris Laetitia;

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In some cases, respect for one’s own dignity and the good of the children requires not giving in to excessive demands or preventing a grave injustice, violence or chronic ill-treatment. In such cases, “separation becomes inevitable. At times it even becomes morally necessary, precisely when it is a matter of removing the more vulnerable spouse or young children from serious injury due to abuse and violence, from humiliation and exploitation, and from disregard and indifference”.257 Even so, “separation must be considered as a last resort, after all other reasonable attempts at reconciliation have proved vain”.258
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