OP here:  husband is pursuing civil divorce.  The matter is decided.  Thanks for all your responses and prayers.

this may be an opportunity for you both to take time to reflect and become better people, so that when you get back together your marriage will be stronger.

But before that happens, you should try to ask him if this is what he really wants. You have a duty to explain to him the scandal caused by marriage break up.

OP here:  husband is pursuing civil divorce.  The matter is decided.  Thanks for all your responses and prayers.

The matter is not decided.
Unless you file a counterclaim, he can drop the case at any time.
Civil divorce does not mean you are annulled and this needs to be made clear to him so he doesn't commit adultery, so always sign emails or texts "your wife".
I suggest:
- for your soul, do not fight him on anything, except custody.  Take what he gives you as long as it is at least 50/50. 
- do not fight or argue with him, ever.  
- Email communication now is best so you have a record of everything.
- If you have been a stay home mother and homeschooled, you should, legally, have sole or primary custody.  In the eyes of God, you are the wronged party and, therefore, should have sole custody.  
- protect the children by trying to make visitations easy, not complicated.  Standard visitations are a nightmare for one and all.  Add a clause that children age 10 or older have the right to choose if they want to visit their father or not.  
- you can add whatever you want to the divorce decree, as long as you both agree.  Do not get sucked into agreeing with whatever your lawyer says or with what is "standard".  Remember, he works for you.
- change the locks on the house and add locks to your bedroom and, perhaps the children's.  Angry husbands can do crazy things.  
- the legal system is not set up to protect abused women or children, so don't expect it.
PM me directly if you want more ideas.

80 Percent of No Fault divorces are filed by women. And this women is at best telling 50% of the truth. Period.

Data, please.
You don't know the woman and yet call her a liar.

People like you and that sspx priest should be ashamed of themselves.  You are the reason more women don't come forward with spousal abuse.

The Church does not forbid permanent separation.  Actually, if the wife or any child thought or spoke about ѕυιcιdє, it is morally required to separate.