I heard from a traditional Catholic girl that having a boyfriend/girlfriend is okay (SSPX raised), I didn't enquire for then to clarify what they meant, but it seems improper. I do not want a girl to compare me to other men who have 'romanced' her.

Men's self-esteem and confidence are heavily attacked from a young age, through being told they are evil oppressors that need to treat women 'right' (simping) to being rejected for trying to be a good man by women who only want to sleep around with men out of their league. Men also don't have 'support' like women do, they don't talk about their problems/emotions but bottle it up. So if a man can provide for a family, even if he isn't a virgin, he is still in a much better position then most modern men, because most guys can't provide since unless you starting 'grinding' in your teens it's very difficult for a man to succeed in providing in their peak years (20s for youth). Both men and women can easily 'waste' themselves, men by not getting income by wasting their youth, women by wasting their youth whoring themselves. There is a clear difference in how men and women destroy themselves and waste their most valuable years. There are also many men who can provide yet women still don't want them. Even trad girls can have ridiculous romantic fantasies and other unrealistic expectations from Jєωιѕн propaganda, we're not all prince charming, and most guys do not have the confidence to be 'him' due to not receiving love, support, respect and validation from women, simply because they weren't handsome enough, or had self-esteem issues from other things. I am not surprised that users here have mentioned that their are many trad men who incapable, being trad does not make you immune to the issues in the world and larger society.

This 100%.  One thing I'll add is that someone (I think AnthonyPadua) posted some girl (some flavor of Protestant but she was spot on on this issue) talking about "pron" for women and how it is different from "pron" for men. 

Men get visual stuff but women get books/short stories and words and emotional tinglings that warp her perception of reality by reading romance novels, usually the "spicy" kind.  This warps her perception of what a partner should be much like the visual "pron" warps a man's perception of what a partner should be.  Both sides indulging in their respective garbage are making it near impossible to form a good and natural bond with someone due to their warped perception.  Men will want women who are "hot" and will satisfy their base urges meanwhile women will want men who give them the thrilling roller coaster ride that their novels portray. 

lol seriously? where are you getting this from? There are women on these forums, any of them here today or when they were young wanted a guy who had slept around (so called 'experienced') first? I'm calling bull, you should put that to the test asking on this forum, I would be surprised if such were true.

God Bless

lol seriously? where are you getting this from? There are women on these forums, any of them here today or when they were young wanted a guy who had slept around (so called 'experienced') first? I'm calling bull, you should put that to the test asking on this forum, I would be surprised if such were true.

God Bless

How to be positive when you are depressed? Also I have had temptations of despair. I feel like I'm stuck in a negative feedback loop with little hope (I do have some hope, just i feel blind sometimes). I don't see how I could speak to a priest about this, even posting this anonymously is difficult (even though the forum owner can still see..). I do recognise my sufferings and temptations is helping me to grow but I just feel so weighed down and low energy all the time.

Do you have a hobby?

If you find that this depression keeps you roaming the internet at night (I am making a guess), then just give your self a bedtime and stick to it.  If you fail confess how many times you missed it.  Or you can do this with any vice that is connected to the depression.  It could be getting out of bed at a certain time.  It could be too much snacking.  It could be making your bed every day.  I hope you get the idea.

Ahh. This question is a hard one to answer. What you're going through also accurately describes me.

But if I may suggest to you, anon, one time, my priest told me that if I ever was anxious or depressed, I needed to read the Sermon on the Mount. It is not long and says everything one needs to hear—and everything one would want to hear, too!

I must say that it does help me. Sometimes, Our Lord’s words bring tears to my eyes. No one before or since spoke like Him. They speak directly into our hearts.

I, like you, really struggle with sadness and ridiculous temptations, and I am quick to try and escape the trials and suffering God gives me. The worst part is I end up suffering anyway, and usually, I make things worse.

I sympathize with you, which does not account for much now, but I will pray for you.

Speaking of which, prayer is good for the both of us. The rosary always helps.

Sometimes advice or suggestions like this do not sink in when I hear it because it sounds too easy.

Unfortunately, personally speaking, I become resentful of it and those that say it to me. But the hard truth is that THEY’RE RIGHT. Haha.

One of the things I reflect upon is Jesus’s Passion and how alone He was during all of it. God truly is with those suffering like we do. It doesn't *feel* like God is close in these moments but gaze upon the Crucifix when times are hard and think about Jesus.
 
Hang in there, friend. God bless you, and Our Lady keep you.

(I'm going to go take my own advice now.)
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