Author Topic: Do your children talk back? (Read 3678 times)

Änσnymσus · « **on:** December 27, 2014, 03:46:03 PM »

I am cut from rough cloth. I do not know how successful I can be at breaking old family curses. I am doing my best. My wife and I are doing everything we think we can to be a good family. We fall short, though. Maybe that is why some small problems are popping up with our kids. Our 5 year old girl argues with us when we tell her to do something. We discipline her. But I wonder if it is something we did. We look at other families and they seem to have good kids. I just do not want to have a fractured family 20 years from now. I have many cousins whose families have split apart because of bitterness. Once, I thought defiance would not be a problem for my family but I was wrong. What do I do?

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #1 on:** December 27, 2014, 04:43:24 PM »

Spare the rod and spoil the child.

ggreg · « **Reply #2 on:** December 27, 2014, 05:28:50 PM »

Some kids are much worse than others. I have an Italian brother in law who is a real disciplinarian. 10 kids, 9 were good as gold, polite and a joy to be around, 1 was completely defiant. Father thrashed him, punished him no end for years. He's 30 now and much improved but still has an awkward streak.

Very hard worker though. Did well in life and very self-motivated.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #3 on:** December 27, 2014, 06:25:22 PM »

Are your children imitating you two? Step back and look at how you talk and behave and think and feel. Or some other folks? Don't let them have TV and beware electronic entertainment of all kinds.

Though there are unique traits of course to each so different approaches have to be used..
That's how they learn by imitation..

Make sure you pray daily for the spiritual protection of your family from the heart. The father especially must, as it is his particular duty. Consider and pray to know your child's heart..

http://www.olrl.org/snt_docs/advice.shtml
http://www.olrl.org/misc/educ_TV.shtml

Having an image of the Sacred of Jesus in an honored place and praying before it morning and evening in honor of His Sacred Heart is a great part of protecting the home. The promises of Our Lord to those devoted to Him in this way.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #4 on:** December 27, 2014, 06:35:15 PM »

Example is one thing. How do you and your spouse behave? How do you behave toward your parents? Does this child have other outside influences..TV, not enough catechism, bad playmates etc. those are all things to rule out.

Once you have ruled out or corrected external factors, consider that every child, depending on temperament is inclined to particular sins or faults. In that case, you will have to work out the most effective way to help the child root out those faults by rewards and punishment. You may not always be 100% successful, that is the nature of the effects of original sin.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #5 on:** December 27, 2014, 07:05:15 PM »

Most kids are a mix of good and bad -- they'll behave at times and misbehave at others. At age 5, it's normal that she's still a work in progress. She's testing and seeing what she can get away with. Important is not to let her "win" these arguments. If you tell her to do something and she argues, add more work to the assignment. Punish if necessary, but don't let the punishment get her out of doing the work.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #6 on:** December 27, 2014, 07:31:35 PM »

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Are your children imitating you two? Step back and look at how you talk and behave and think and feel. Or some other folks? Don't let them have TV and beware electronic entertainment of all kinds.

Though there are unique traits of course to each so different approaches have to be used..
That's how they learn by imitation..

Make sure you pray daily for the spiritual protection of your family from the heart. The father especially must, as it is his particular duty. Consider and pray to know your child's heart..

http://www.olrl.org/snt_docs/advice.shtml
http://www.olrl.org/misc/educ_TV.shtml

Having an image of the Sacred of Jesus in an honored place and praying before it morning and evening in honor of His Sacred Heart is a great part of protecting the home. The promises of Our Lord to those devoted to Him in this way.

I want to add...you need to say the Rosary as a family every evening. Make sure to have the children think of the mysteries as they pray it. Perhaps start out with only 2 mysteries one day, and the next day the remaining three.

Also, the parents should never bicker in front of the children, or discuss disciplinary decisions.

If the child was baptized in the Novus Ordo rite, it may be invalid, and conditional (re)baptism necessary to make sure it is valid.

Which means what in relation to the topic? Mormons don't have valid baptisms, but they come off as very well-behaved and orderly families.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #7 on:** December 27, 2014, 07:34:31 PM »

Our Lady told Don Bosco, beware of the friendships they keep. Maybe other homes they may visit. No over night stays.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #8 on:** December 27, 2014, 07:43:52 PM »

I think it's really important for parents to read the book 'The Life of Ven. Anne de Guigne' to see children can be saints.

It's about the lowest price a book can get to buy too.

BTNYC · « **Reply #9 on:** December 28, 2014, 12:39:05 AM »

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Are your children imitating you two? Step back and look at how you talk and behave and think and feel. Or some other folks? Don't let them have TV and beware electronic entertainment of all kinds.

Though there are unique traits of course to each so different approaches have to be used..
That's how they learn by imitation..

Make sure you pray daily for the spiritual protection of your family from the heart. The father especially must, as it is his particular duty. Consider and pray to know your child's heart..

http://www.olrl.org/snt_docs/advice.shtml
http://www.olrl.org/misc/educ_TV.shtml

Having an image of the Sacred of Jesus in an honored place and praying before it morning and evening in honor of His Sacred Heart is a great part of protecting the home. The promises of Our Lord to those devoted to Him in this way.

I want to add...you need to say the Rosary as a family every evening. Make sure to have the children think of the mysteries as they pray it. Perhaps start out with only 2 mysteries one day, and the next day the remaining three.

Also, the parents should never bicker in front of the children, or discuss disciplinary decisions.

If the child was baptized in the Novus Ordo rite, it may be invalid, and conditional (re)baptism necessary to make sure it is valid.

Nonsense. The NO still uses water over the head, and the proper baptismal formula. Remember that even pagans and Jєωs can validly baptize.

Stop publicly entertaining your negative doubts. Learn to despise them as every Catholic ought to.

BTNYC · « **Reply #10 on:** December 28, 2014, 12:41:24 AM »

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Are your children imitating you two? Step back and look at how you talk and behave and think and feel. Or some other folks? Don't let them have TV and beware electronic entertainment of all kinds.

Though there are unique traits of course to each so different approaches have to be used..
That's how they learn by imitation..

Make sure you pray daily for the spiritual protection of your family from the heart. The father especially must, as it is his particular duty. Consider and pray to know your child's heart..

http://www.olrl.org/snt_docs/advice.shtml
http://www.olrl.org/misc/educ_TV.shtml

Having an image of the Sacred of Jesus in an honored place and praying before it morning and evening in honor of His Sacred Heart is a great part of protecting the home. The promises of Our Lord to those devoted to Him in this way.

I want to add...you need to say the Rosary as a family every evening. Make sure to have the children think of the mysteries as they pray it. Perhaps start out with only 2 mysteries one day, and the next day the remaining three.

Also, the parents should never bicker in front of the children, or discuss disciplinary decisions.

If the child was baptized in the Novus Ordo rite, it may be invalid, and conditional (re)baptism necessary to make sure it is valid.

Which means what in relation to the topic? Mormons don't have valid baptisms, but they come off as very well-behaved and orderly families.

Utterly beside the point. It's gravely scandalous to go around publicly questioning an obviously valid Sacrament based on nothing more than negative doubts.

Nadir · « **Reply #11 on:** December 28, 2014, 01:47:47 AM »

You don't really give us much info to go on. Do your children, in particular the 5 year old go to school? Does she watch TV shows?

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #12 on:** December 28, 2014, 07:00:00 AM »

There's a book I just got from the cmri bookstore called how to raise good catholic children. So far it's very good.

Incidentally, I heard my 5 year old use the word idiot yesterday. I asked here where she leARned and after a moment my oldest daughter said it was on Charlie browns Christmas special which we watched on YouTube a few weeks previous so who's to blame?

Nadir · « **Reply #13 on:** December 28, 2014, 03:04:58 PM »

I think you should be more discerning in what you and your children watch. I just checked out a 7 minute short. The language used is not what I would want my children to learn. (Blockhead, rats!) Lift your standard. Pray for discernment. May God bless you.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #14 on:** December 28, 2014, 03:30:45 PM »

Im not the op, just pointing out that even if you go back to 1967 Charlie Brown cartoons there are still bad messages there even though the pale in comparison with what we have today.

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