I have a few good friends I know I can depend on, but I’ve had my run in with unfavorable peopel too. It’s important to have a vetting process.

Real friends will never turn on you, will help you get to heaven, and are all but non-existent in this world. For those that have found one, consider yourself extremely blessed.


"A faithful friend is a strong defense: and he that hath found him, hath found a treasure." - Ecclesiasticus 6:14

Maybe you should have a good look at yourself as to why some of you have so few friends. It could be that you’re not very nice people. Maybe if you were more saintly, more people would be attracted to you. You don’t have to only be friends with people you deem ‘worthy’. That might be the answer you’re looking for.

Uh, nice of you to think the worst of me, but no.

Let's review my original post.

I have been friendly to so many people in my adult life, yet I currently have no friends IRL. All I have are some acquaintances, most of whom are a generation older than me. Some have moved away, others left my chapel or group and cut off from me, and others actually turned on me, betrayed me, or became my actual enemy. People say you have to be a friend to make a friend, but that doesn't always work. I've invested in countless friendships and they always end for some reason beyond my control. It's sad and kind of depressing.

I am friendly to everyone, and not that picky. No, all of my friends don't have to be perfect. Besides, if I am the picky one, then why am I rejected, instead of rejecting others as you suggest? And why do you assume there was a huge pool of potential friends to begin with? Many Catholics are isolated nowadays.

Did you even read the OP? People left the chapel, moved away, and others betrayed me. How could my being picky cause any of that? Who leaves a geographic area because one guy is a jerk? Nevermind the fact I specifically stated I have been friendly.

If I'm a pathological liar then why even bother discussing on this thread? Forum discussion can't happen without some basic level of trust or at least benefit of the doubt. Besides, you have no reason to believe I am a liar. Normal people presume truthfulness and discuss from there. Only a troll jumps in and calls someone a liar for absolutely no reason.

I actually thought of that already, and I do feel closer to Our Lord as a result. Still, I think it's sad on a human level that all my friends in the same state of life (childbearing years) always move on for some reason. It's especially sad that good people, God's own, hopefully future saints, can't socialize or share company with each other in this life. And it's not just myself I feel sorry for. Perhaps I can grow spiritually from it, but what about my children? They will want companionship, and I fear they will befriend worldlings and noncatholics out of desperation in the future. So many good traditional Catholic families have come and gone.

So you have children, ifs your husband still living with you? If yes, then work on that relationship as he is supposed to be the best friend Our Lord has given you. When your spouse is your best friend, as it should be, then you would not worry about having other friends. 

This is a blessing, not the norm.  

So if your spouse is pretty much your best friend, then you can't or shouldn't hope for any other friends? Not even friends/couples that you and your spouse are both friends with?