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Traditional Catholic Faith => Anσnymσus Posts Allowed => Topic started by: Änσnymσus on December 26, 2025, 12:47:15 PM
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Frequently, I see that when husbands are closer to the aisle than their wives, they step back and let their wives go first when it's time to enqueue to receive Communion. Why? To keep an eye on them, or feminism (letting wives be the head/leader of the family, drive the car, etc.)?
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Frequently, I see that when husbands are closer to the aisle than their wives, they step back and let their wives go first when it's time to enqueue to receive Communion. Why? To keep an eye on them, or feminism (letting wives be the head/leader of the family, drive the car, etc.)?
Do you do it and why?
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Frequently, I see that when husbands are closer to the aisle than their wives, they step back and let their wives go first when it's time to enqueue to receive Communion. Why? To keep an eye on them, or feminism (letting wives be the head/leader of the family, drive the car, etc.)?
I always saw that as a protective father and husband thing. But I’ve never thought about it more than that. When I was in the Novus Ordo I would always get annoyed by my father not moving back to his original spot, everyone would shift down one. 😂
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"Ladies first" originated with Christendom, during which time not only was Our Lady honored, but all ladies. Boys were taught to open doors for women (including automobile doors), to pull out a lady's chair for her at the dining table, to carry a white handkerchief with them and to offer it to a lady if needed, and when walking with a woman to walk on the outside toward the road (to protect her from splashing of vehicles). My DH taught all of these to our sons.
The war on Chritendom aka Western Civilization is nearly complete, with many men and women ignorant of these traditions.
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Frequently, I see that when husbands are closer to the aisle than their wives, they step back and let their wives go first when it's time to enqueue to receive Communion. Why? To keep an eye on them, or feminism (letting wives be the head/leader of the family, drive the car, etc.)?
It’s called chivalry and being a gentlemen, something that was, for the most part, lost by the X generation and the generations that followed.
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Frequently, I see that when husbands are closer to the aisle than their wives, they step back and let their wives go first when it's time to enqueue to receive Communion. Why? To keep an eye on them, or feminism (letting wives be the head/leader of the family, drive the car, etc.)?
Regarding driving the car, I think that depends on how emotional vs. rational the woman is. Not all women are unhinged balls of emotion, which is what propagates the true but unflattering horrible female driver meme. Emotional control, or Reason being firmly in the drivers seat, is crucial to being a good driver or pilot. I'm sorry if you've had limited experience, or where your travels have taken you, but exceptions do exist. Maybe even several % of the total female population, which only proves the rule that female drivers are awful, generally speaking.
Also, is it inherently true that the driver is above the one driven? What about chauffeurs?
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Frequently, I see that when husbands are closer to the aisle than their wives, they step back and let their wives go first when it's time to enqueue to receive Communion. Why? To keep an eye on them, or feminism (letting wives be the head/leader of the family, drive the car, etc.)?
If you sit on the outside of the pew you let the inside Pew sitters go first so they get back in first...
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is it inherently true that the driver is above the one driven? What about chauffeurs?
good point
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It’s called chivalry and being a gentlemen, something that was, for the most part, lost by the X generation and the generations that followed.
Perhaps it's a good thing it was lost, as today it just seems to fuel feminist pride.
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My wife and I rarely attend the same Mass on Sundays. When we do, I will usually follow her to the altar rail.
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I always saw that as a protective father and husband thing.
Protecting from what?
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My wife and I rarely attend the same Mass on Sundays. When we do, I will usually follow her to the altar rail.
You bring up an interesting point. Did husbands and wives even sit together during Mass before Vatican II? Weren't the sexes segregated?
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Protecting from what?
Maybe “protecting” the wrong wording. It just seems like something husbands naturally do to keep their wife and children separated from the people behind them. It’s just a way to mark out their family. I don’t know how else to explain it really, because I haven’t thought about it that much. But I don’t see a “ladies first” principal as problematic.
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It just seems like something husbands naturally do to keep their wife and children separated from the people behind them.
I know what you mean; it just comes instinctually.
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I don't with my wife, and I'm as protective as they get.
None of the men do at my Church.
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My first thought is "Why is this in the anonymous forum"? I cannot see how the topic fits any of the criteria set by the forum owner for anonymous posting. It might be concerning that there are males too timid to have the courage of their convictions and to be able to boldly speak out without hiding behind anonymity.
Anyways, I agree with this from Reply #4 (subsequently attacked in Reply #8):
It’s called chivalry and being a gentlemen, something that was, for the most part, lost by the X generation and the generations that followed.
Chivalry, being a gentleman, having consideration for others, have always been high marks of tradition and signs of a civilized people. When a family is about to enter a church should the husband / father approach first and hold the door open while his family enters? Or, should he boldly go in first and let the door slam in the face of his wife and the mother of his children?
We will soon recall the Holy Family's flight into Egypt. The art depictions of this journey all show Mary holding the infant Jesus and riding a donkey. St. Joseph is variously shown leading the donkey, walking alongside it, or following behind, which is to say that there is no defined tradition about where he was in the procession. Do some think these depictions are wrong and that St. Joseph should be on the donkey with the Blessed Mother walking behind, to "show a woman's place" so to speak?
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Reply #15 is mine.
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You bring up an interesting point. Did husbands and wives even sit together during Mass before Vatican II? Weren't the sexes segregated?
I believe that was the custom at one point, I'm not sure what the children did (Girls with the mother and boys with the father? All small children with the mother?). I was born in 1951 and in my pre VII era families sat together. at Mass. At parochial school Masses we were segregated, girls on the Gospel side and boy on the Epistle side.
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Dad would stand up, step back, and we kids would get on line, then Mom, and Dad taking up the rear.
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My first thought is "Why is this in the anonymous forum"? I cannot see how the topic fits any of the criteria set by the forum owner for anonymous posting. It might be concerning that there are males too timid to have the courage of their convictions and to be able to boldly speak out without hiding behind anonymity.
And who made you the forum police?
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And who made you the forum police?
I am not the forum police and have never claimed to be. I simply expressed my opinion that I don't understand how this topic fits the criteria listed for using the anonymous forum. Also, again my personal opinion but I know it is shared by some here, except for some delicate topics one should have the courage of their convictions and express them forthright without worrying about what others may think.
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I used to stand aside and let my wife go first to the communion rail out of chivalry, ladies first, open the door for her sort of thing. I no longer do. I now lead her to the communion rail.
A while back after giving it some thought, I noticed the priest always gives communion to the husband first at a Nuptial Mass. I've never asked why that is, but that is reason enough for me to have made the change.
God Bless
cz