I have been in contact with my father for some time after the issue with my mother controlling me using finances. It turns out the reason why my life is so horrible quality is due the fact I was meant to go with my father, and she stole his money from the bank about hundreds of thousands. They favored my mother because she was a 'woman with a child' and they hid everything from me about what happened on her side. 

I was paranoid about my father being 'malicious' and etc but now it seems I might have learnt the truth about why I have little to no freedom. If I had stayed with my father I would have had a normal life basically.

What ideology is responsible for this and who? I meant*

What path often does God intend for men who have had this thing separate them from their father?

The path of forgiveness is the one that God would have you take. 

As I understand it, men who are deprived in some way of a relationship with their father's end up with what psychologists used to call "father hunger," which usually didn't, but could lead to gender identity disorder and even intrusive/unwanted ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ tempations.  The best thing for them to do is forgive everyone involved, trust that God will provide for you so long as you try to honor and obey God, seek out help and find good strong male role models to emulate and find older men who are willing to spend time with you.  You can turn that into service, by befriending an old widower who's kids have moved away.  

I was raised without a father -- in fact I never even met him -- but I have refused to let this ruin my life. You have to take control of your own life with the graces God will give you if you ask Him.