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Offline Ladislaus

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Re: Confession and scrupulosity
« Reply #35 on: July 04, 2021, 02:48:34 PM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on July 04, 2021, 01:06:01 PM
So just to clarify this; if you encounter a priest who had, for a lack of a better term, a "bad bedside manner" in that he was, for example, inexplicably or unnecessarily rude or condescending, would expressing frustration over something like that by saying "I don't really like that particular priest; I found him to be uncompassionate and uncharitable" on the basis of his personality be considered bad-mouthing or a sin of any sort?

I think it depends on whether you had good reason for speaking that way.  I think it maybe be possible to "criticize" a priest in order to alert others to issues they might expect from him.  If the motivation was just idle gossip or a desire to vent, then I would think it to be a venial sin.

We've had similar discussions about this type of thing in a different context.  If I ran into a priest who came across as effeminate and giving of a "pedophile" vibe, I think that it would not only be permitted but even required to sound the alarm.  I think that too many pedophiles got away with their crimes precisely under cover of scruples regarding not saying anything bad about a priest.
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Re: Confession and scrupulosity
« Reply #36 on: July 05, 2021, 03:12:04 PM »
Quote from: Ladislaus on July 04, 2021, 02:48:34 PM
I think it depends on whether you had good reason for speaking that way.  I think it maybe be possible to "criticize" a priest in order to alert others to issues they might expect from him.  If the motivation was just idle gossip or a desire to vent, then I would think it to be a venial sin.

We've had similar discussions about this type of thing in a different context.  If I ran into a priest who came across as effeminate and giving of a "pedophile" vibe, I think that it would not only be permitted but even required to sound the alarm.  I think that too many pedophiles got away with their crimes precisely under cover of scruples regarding not saying anything bad about a priest.
What I mean is, is it a sin to criticize a priest if he is particularly cruel and lacking charity and doesn't seem to care about his penitents?
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Änσnymσus

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Re: Confession and scrupulosity
« Reply #37 on: July 05, 2021, 05:24:27 PM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on July 04, 2021, 01:06:01 PM
"I don't really like that particular priest; I found him to be uncompassionate and uncharitable" on the basis of his personality be considered bad-mouthing or a sin of any sort?
It sounds like you are just expressing your opinion, I don't see it as sinful unless your are intentionally going around bringing up the subject in order to damage his reputation. 
He may be treating you like he is because he thinks it's necessary, because of your scruples, to do so. Ask around, discreetly, to see if anyone else is having the same experience.
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Re: Confession and scrupulosity
« Reply #38 on: July 06, 2021, 08:04:25 PM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on July 05, 2021, 05:24:27 PM
It sounds like you are just expressing your opinion, I don't see it as sinful unless your are intentionally going around bringing up the subject in order to damage his reputation.  
He may be treating you like he is because he thinks it's necessary, because of your scruples, to do so. Ask around, discreetly, to see if anyone else is having the same experience.
Yeah, I'm not actively trying to besmirch him or damage his reputation or anything like that. I genuinely just felt like he was unnecessarily flippant and had a very uncompassionate demeanor. This is a different priest who I've only gone to confession with once before. The other person who went with me to Mass most recently said he acted the same way to them in the confessional so, I don't think it's simply because of the scrupulosity.
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Re: Confession and scrupulosity
« Reply #39 on: July 10, 2021, 07:17:40 PM »
Is it a sin to use pseudonyms on social media? For instance, on my actual social media account I (a man, fyi) use my birth name rather than my current legal name and a lot of people know me by that the former rather than the latter. I was wondering if this is this a sin that would fall under bearing false witness that I should confess? I mean it's technically my real, birth name and the one which I would like to change back to but, just not my current legal name that was changed when I was a child.
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