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Änσnymσus

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Re: Confession and scrupulosity
« Reply #10 on: June 21, 2021, 06:31:59 PM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 21, 2021, 05:53:03 PM
the usual confessor who I will most likely be seeing at my next confession tends to be very strict and, at times, gets irritable when I when I try to confess something that I remember from the past or try to clarify something from my past confession so, even though I would like to, I expect him to get irritated and not allow me to do so.
He's being a good Priest. If you listen to him you will remember him fondly for helping you. If you don't listen to him you will drive yourself and everyone else nuts.
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Änσnymσus

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Re: Confession and scrupulosity
« Reply #11 on: June 21, 2021, 06:48:36 PM »
How about this example.  I did a sin of talking negatively about 2 priests, one of whom I made my confession to, I confessed that I had bad mouthed a priest a few times..  Do I need give the details or just saying that is enough.
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Änσnymσus

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Re: Confession and scrupulosity
« Reply #12 on: June 21, 2021, 08:31:53 PM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 21, 2021, 06:48:36 PM
How about this example.  I did a sin of talking negatively about 2 priests, one of whom I made my confession to, I confessed that I had bad mouthed a priest a few times..  Do I need give the details or just saying that is enough.
Sounds plenty good enough. And also a prime example of scrupulosity; you just can't let it go. See above about never having peace of mind.
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Offline Ladislaus

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Re: Confession and scrupulosity
« Reply #13 on: June 21, 2021, 09:32:15 PM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 21, 2021, 05:53:03 PM
I didn't deliberately or intentionally try to distort anything but, as you mentioned, I often do question myself and second-guess if I did. I went in with the full intention of being 100% honest. I would like to rectify the situation by making clarifications during my next confession but, the priest who I made the general confession to and the one whom I usually confessed to have both told me not to focus on past sins because of the scrupulosity. If I were seeing the priest who I made the general confession to again, I'm certain he would be understanding and let me clarify for my peace of mind but, the usual confessor who I will most likely be seeing at my next confession tends to be very strict and, at times, gets irritable when I when I try to confess something that I remember from the past or try to clarify something from my past confession so, even though I would like to, I expect him to get irritated and not allow me to do so.

I would listen to your priest then.  Obedience to your priest confessor takes precedence over your scruples.  He's probably getting irritable with your retracing the past because you do it often as a result of scrupulosity.  To help you get past your scrupulosity, you need to let go.  God will not blame you for not "clarifying" a sin if you do so on the orders of your Confessor.

"About 5 confessions ago, I said this ... but what I really meant to say was this."
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Offline Ladislaus

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Re: Confession and scrupulosity
« Reply #14 on: June 21, 2021, 09:36:52 PM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 21, 2021, 06:48:36 PM
How about this example.  I did a sin of talking negatively about 2 priests, one of whom I made my confession to, I confessed that I had bad mouthed a priest a few times..  Do I need give the details or just saying that is enough.

Nope, that's plenty.  Kind of sin and number are all that are required.  Unless there are particular circuмstances which change the nature of the sin, they are superfluous.

So, with this example, if your "bad-mouthing" involved calumny or detraction, then that would be detraction and calumny.  But if it's something short of that, such as "boy he gives lousy sermons" or "that priest has a bad temper" or "I really don't like him." ... which is typically what is meant by bad-mouthing rather than "this priest is having an affair with a female parishioner".

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