The anon posting is getting out of hand. 
A Church father would probably just default to having your father pick a suitor out.
Bingo. Which is why I don't like these young adult gatherings in tradition.
Most if not all of these girls are traveling long distances away from their homes and fathers to network. Since the girl is out of the home she will be psychologically unhinged during that time. And because she doesn't feel safe, she will huddle up with her girlfriends. Making her unavailable because men don't want to approach women when she is with her friends.
Then you tell the young men to ask a bunch of women out because if you don't, you are a coward with no confidence. If the girl likes you and says yes, her friends might get jealous and try to break you up before something gets started. If she says no, your reputation gets ruined because if she doesn't want you, her friends and even acquaintances probably don't want you. It's a lose-lose situation in most cases.
None of this stuff is traditional. The father needs to not only pick out a suitor but to help find a husband for his daughter. If the parents are the primary educators of their children, then helping them live out their duties to God is part of it which involves the religious life or marriage. St. Therese of Liseiux's father went with her from France to Rome to ask permission from the pope. That is the example to follow. Besides, it is much less intimidating to approach a woman with her father close by then when she is with her friends. I bet most men would agree with that.
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