Yes, it is very wrong to rashly judge parishioners who may not meet our criteria as a good Catholic.  There are so many souls that our Lord converts from bad habits and shady pasts who still have tattoos or maybe wear their makeup too heavy. 

A man can have a good few years to improve himself. A woman is already who she is at about 18/19. She can convert, but she has to struggle more than a man. Certainly considering her time limit in having children.

In my personal experience, if a woman has not converted before 25 it will be real hard for her to adapt to a good Catholic marriage and the demands that the Sacraments makes on people.

I have seen plenty of  26-28 year old women converting. And they are very zealous, but they would never be able to cope well in marriage.

Please lets remember we live in a society that is getting worse by the day. More and more anti marriage. NOT less.

Therefore those who will survive, are those who are the most zealous and the most capable. Not less!

Lets stop the dreaming folks. It's brutal out there, and even the Bible says "the luke warm I will spit you out". We must be on fire for God.

• Definition: It is the redirection of disordered passions and willful ego toward the service of God and others.
• Purpose: The goal is to cultivate virtue (specifically temperance and fortitude) to achieve freedom from sin and to grow in charity.
• Mortification: Fasting and small, daily acts of self-denial are crucial for training the will and subordinating physical appetites to reason.
• Spiritual Life: Saints like Ignatius of Loyola and Francis Borgia emphasized that true holiness requires overcoming oneself, as prayer alone is not enough.
• The Role of Grace: While requiring human effort, true self-conquest is ultimately achieved by cooperating with divine grace, particularly through the Eucharist and confession. 

• Focus on the "Little Way": Accepting daily annoyances, or "little crosses," strengthens the soul.
• Targeting Faults: Identifying and working on one's "predominant fault" is more effective than vague self-improvement.
• Habit Formation: Consistently practicing patience and humility to turn virtuous actions into habits. 

How do you tell the difference between Holy Anger and rash judgement?  It would be best to not fall into pride and assume you have Holy Anger.

You probably have a crummy marriage, that's why you sound so miserable. Maybe have some empathy for single men who struggle.

Crazy thing is that I actually know a few resistance families where the daughters would be quite willing, but the parents keep them locked away basically, or do nothing to help them find someone. Taking total advantage of the fact that they are trusting homeschooled girls.

The autism of trads strikes agains.

And these girls are in their twenties!

I think it has also do with fertility and statistical chance of having offspring.