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Änσnymσus

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Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #90 on: February 15, 2026, 01:31:04 AM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on February 15, 2026, 01:05:18 AM
Yes, but if a woman can't have children at 20, she won't be able to have kids at all. Fertility is pretty much maxed out at that age.
Eh it's more so that as a women gets older she gets less desirable, same with most men (balding, old looking etc). But at 30 it's VERY HARD for a women to have children. not impossible but very difficult. I know a Catholic lady who got married around 27, she has 5+ kids now. Obviously 27 is still several years before 30 but 27-28 is really when ladies with even slight wits begin to panic as the last train for motherhood is about to depart. Leaving it off any later is playing a dangerous game of never having children, and I know some people with no children, not sure what prevented offspring but perhaps it was age.
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Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #91 on: February 15, 2026, 07:21:28 AM »
How do I cope with FOMO of not getting to marry a cute 18yr old virgin? I have little to no interest in 'old' women. Girls just lose so much youthful charm after 19.
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Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #92 on: February 15, 2026, 09:20:08 AM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on February 15, 2026, 07:21:28 AM
How do I cope with FOMO of not getting to marry a cute 18yr old virgin? I have little to no interest in 'old' women. Girls just lose so much youthful charm after 19.

Assuming you're not being sarcastic, this is a problem I think.

There are many men who never got a "cute 18 year old virgin". Even if they managed to find a virgin, she probably wasn't "conventionally beautiful" as in most men would be after her, and she probably wasn't 18, either.

How many men actually get an ideal or "cute" 18 year old for a wife? Probably less than 1/10th of 1%. You need to turn off the screens and/or pornography. Just like women, men can distort their minds by feeding in selected top 1% specimens of the opposite sex, so that they end up looking down on 100% of the opposite sex in their own city. That's a You problem.

So realize how high you are placing yourself here. Philosophizing about the ideal is one thing. You getting or "deserving" that ideal is beyond delusional. Most men, even married men, gave up on your current dream long ago.
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Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #93 on: February 15, 2026, 10:41:17 AM »
Quote from: FarmerWife on February 14, 2026, 07:48:30 PM
You probably have a crummy marriage, that's why you sound so miserable. Maybe have some empathy for single men who struggle.
There is nothing miserable about what the poster stated and I think most people on this website have been very empathetic and have provided good information and help. 
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Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #94 on: February 15, 2026, 11:54:32 AM »
Quote from: FarmerWife on February 14, 2026, 07:48:30 PM
You probably have a crummy marriage, that's why you sound so miserable. Maybe have some empathy for single men who struggle.

As one of the men posting against her I agree.

Crummy in the sense that her husband never corrects her or takes interest in her advancing in virtue.

I recently spoke to a priest about this. A priest well into his 80s and a resistance priest. 

He told me of story where a husband and wife, and at a certain point the priest realised that the husband had never once corrected his wife. He was telling me this story obviously because it is a bad thing!
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