Author Topic: Cheating spouse (Read 5842 times)

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #20 on:** March 29, 2016, 05:50:48 PM »

"More souls go to Hell because of sins of the flesh than any other cause."
-Our Lady of Fatima

"An eternity of pain, suffering, angst, and despair in exchange for a few seconds of base, animal pleasure."
- Various saints, speaking about sins against the 6th and 9th

Tiffany · « **Reply #21 on:** March 29, 2016, 06:51:41 PM »

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Matthew is correct. It's a one-time opportunity to separate on grounds of adultery because if you choose to stay with him and he continues with same or different women you can no longer have a choice. You'll have to live with him as he is. I don't think a cheater has any incentive to repent when he's getting serviced by multiple women.

If he does repent and promises not to cheat again, and she forgives him, that doesn't mean she has to accept further cheating and stay with him.

Let's say he cheats in March of 2016. He is sorry and promises to be faithful and they have a normal married life. If he stays faithful she cannot decide to abstain in October because he cheated back in March.

If he cheats again in October 2016 it's within her rights to abstain again permanently.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #22 on:** March 29, 2016, 07:05:52 PM »

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Matthew is correct. It's a one-time opportunity to separate on grounds of adultery because if you choose to stay with him and he continues with same or different women you can no longer have a choice. You'll have to live with him as he is. I don't think a cheater has any incentive to repent when he's getting serviced by multiple women.

If he does repent and promises not to cheat again, and she forgives him, that doesn't mean she has to accept further cheating and stay with him.

Let's say he cheats in March of 2016. He is sorry and promises to be faithful and they have a normal married life. If he stays faithful she cannot decide to abstain in October because he cheated back in March.

If he cheats again in October 2016 it's within her rights to abstain again permanently.

This doesn't sound like a church teaching. Can you post a source for this?

Tiffany · « **Reply #23 on:** March 29, 2016, 07:20:08 PM »

It's a new offense after the initial forgiveness.

Matthew · « **Reply #24 on:** March 29, 2016, 09:19:39 PM »

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Matthew is correct. It's a one-time opportunity to separate on grounds of adultery because if you choose to stay with him and he continues with same or different women you can no longer have a choice. You'll have to live with him as he is. I don't think a cheater has any incentive to repent when he's getting serviced by multiple women.

If he does repent and promises not to cheat again, and she forgives him, that doesn't mean she has to accept further cheating and stay with him.

Let's say he cheats in March of 2016. He is sorry and promises to be faithful and they have a normal married life. If he stays faithful she cannot decide to abstain in October because he cheated back in March.

If he cheats again in October 2016 it's within her rights to abstain again permanently.

This is correct. It's simple common sense.

A) You can't un-forgive someone.
B) If there is another offense, you're back to square one! Forgive or not forgive.

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