Author Topic: Cheating spouse (Read 5827 times)

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #25 on:** March 29, 2016, 09:30:32 PM »

Quote from: Tiffany

It's a new offense after the initial forgiveness.

No, I'm sorry Tiffany but the 1917 Code of Canon Law disagrees with you:

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Canon 1129:
Because of the adultery of a spouse, the other spouse, the bond remaining, has the right of dissolving, even in perpetuity, the communion of life, unless he consented to the crime, or gave cause for it, ot otherwise expressly or tacitly condoned it, or indeed himself committed the same crime.

Tacit condonation is considered [to have occured] if the innocent spouse, after being made certain of the crime of adultery, freely engaged in marital affection with the other spouse; but it is presumed unless, within six month, he expels or abandons the adulterous spouse, or makes a legitimate accusation against the other.

The injured spouse has SIX MONTHS to separate from the adulterer otherwise she loses the right to ever separate in the future for adultery. Period. This law also says that her tacit condonation is assumed if she continues to live with him even if she doesn't have relations during that time.

This is not a "common sense" situation. The church law is clear.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #26 on:** March 29, 2016, 09:44:58 PM »

Your quote agrees with Tiffany. If six months elapse and you IGNORE the situation, you lose your right to separate, but confronting the adulterer is an option alongside expulsion as stated in the last phrase.

This excerpt does not address whether or not a repeat offense would be handled differently.

Desmond · « **Reply #27 on:** March 30, 2016, 01:22:06 AM »

Can someone please shed some light on this:

Matthew 9:

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6Therefore now they are not two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder. 7They say to him: Why then did Moses command to give a bill of divorce, and to put away? 8He saith to them: Because Moses by reason of the hardness of your heart permitted you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. 9And I say to you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and he that shall marry her that is put away, committeth adultery.

MaterDominici · « **Reply #28 on:** March 30, 2016, 01:37:29 AM »

Quote from: Desmond

Can someone please shed some light on this:

Matthew 19:

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6Therefore now they are not two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder. 7They say to him: Why then did Moses command to give a bill of divorce, and to put away? 8He saith to them: Because Moses by reason of the hardness of your heart permitted you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. 9And I say to you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and he that shall marry her that is put away, committeth adultery.

from Challoner:

[9] Except it be: In the case of fornication, that is, of adultery, the wife may be put away: but even then the husband cannot marry another as long as the wife is living.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #29 on:** March 30, 2016, 07:12:49 AM »

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Your quote agrees with Tiffany. If six months elapse and you IGNORE the situation, you lose your right to separate, but confronting the adulterer is an option alongside expulsion as stated in the last phrase.

This excerpt does not address whether or not a repeat offense would be handled differently.

Then I am happy to be wrong because it covers my situation all the more. I had a repeat offender and after being told to forgive over and over by an irresponsible priest I finally had enough and cut him loose.

I apologize Tiffany. I should not have assumed that you didn't understand the canon. And it was me who didn't. There's that whole log/splinter thing!

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