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Änσnymσus

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« Reply #15 on: March 21, 2016, 07:40:34 PM »
You might end up living a celibate life for the rest of your life, but what is that compared to eternity?  I hope that things do work out between you and your husband, though.
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« Reply #16 on: March 24, 2016, 09:56:43 PM »
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What should a trad wife do if she finds. Out that her husband cheated her by having an affair with his office secretary?

Change the locks on your doors, put his clothes in boxes outside the garage door, and leave a note on the door telling the bum that he's out!
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« Reply #17 on: March 29, 2016, 04:13:28 PM »
The wife should forgive the husband unconditionally and she should act as if she knows nothing about the affair.  

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« Reply #18 on: March 29, 2016, 04:28:04 PM »
She should confront him about it, but forgiving him is up to her.

Keep in mind, though, that although adultery is cause for separation/withholding the marriage debt indefinitely, she will never be free to remarry as long as her husband is alive. So think long and hard about it.

The wife (or husband, if roles are reversed) always has the option of "forgiving" or "not forgiving" adultery. If she opts for non-forgiveness, she can withhold the marriage debt indefinitely. I believe you'd have to physically separate in this case, as otherwise it would be a source of temptation for the husband. But once she forgives him, she can't change her mind later and "un-forgive him" for that same offense.

This is Catholic doctrine, by the way.

"Till death do us part."

A bad marriage or failed marriage is not a non-marriage.
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« Reply #19 on: March 29, 2016, 04:50:56 PM »
Matthew is correct.  It's a one-time opportunity to separate on grounds of adultery because if you choose to stay with him and he continues with same or different women you can no longer have a choice.  You'll have to live with him as he is.  I don't think a cheater has any incentive to repent when he's getting serviced by multiple women.  

On the other hand if you separate you better be very very certain he won't do it again prior to a reconciliation.  Better to wait many years until he is old and infirm.  Once a cheater always a cheater.  They don't care one iota for the sanctity and permanency of marriage.  

That's why I kicked mine to the curb as soon as I realized it was now or never.  Guess what?  He didn't repent so I made the right choice.  
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