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« on: October 19, 2013, 01:55:27 PM »
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  • I have a 18 year old daughter who was asked to go out to dinner by a customer at the store she works at.  I told her that it wasn't a good idea and if she wanted to get to know this man she could take her sisters with her to a public place say like a baseball game or roller skating rink.  I know this is a potential "can of worms" but with such limited prospects at local trad chapels whats a young person to do?


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    « Reply #1 on: October 19, 2013, 06:01:07 PM »
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    IMO, it's a very bad idea.  If she is living under your roof and is not self supporting, then, as parents, use your veto-power!  If your daughter wants to marry, then start a search for a suitable Catholic husband.  I don't understand why parents think a good marriage is something that will "just happen" with no effort, assistance or planning.  If your daughter wanted to go to University or enter religious life, wouldn't you be helping her investigate the possibilities and make a choice?  Why should a vocation to the married life be any different?  Would you allow her to enrolled a University on the basis of having picked up a pamphlet at work?  Or join a religious order because she liked the color of the habit?  If no suitable men are to be found locally, why not start here on CI?  It's not a "singles site" but I do know of one person who was introduced to her soon-to-be husband through a poster on this site.  Don't leave your possible son-in-law and father of your grandchildren to chance.  And don't forget to pray!  In fact, do that first, with your daughter.
     St. Francis Xavier threw a Crucifix into the sea, at once calming the waves.  Upon reaching the shore, the Crucifix was returned to him by a crab with a curious cross pattern on its shell.  


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    « Reply #2 on: October 20, 2013, 02:12:40 AM »
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  • as a person who married a non traditional I have to say that looking back I should have been more discerning.  I have a good marriage and my spouse is very good but my Faith has been tested time and again.  I am sorry that I didn't have the opportunity to do an retreat of st Ignatius before I started my life as a single teen.  When my children are 18 I will definitely insist on them doing one.
    I hope and pray that my spouse will convert as it is a very difficult cross to bare.  I do know of others who's spouses converted before the marriage and they have a very good Catholic marriage so it is possible but what is best is to marry traditional.