Firstly, in this thread "home aloner" should be read "dogmatic home aloner" which is someone who is home on Sunday for *dogmatic* reasons -- not accidental reasons like "there doesn't happen to be a Trad chapel in my area". That is NOT how "home aloner" is used in common parlance on CathInfo.
To use the lifeboat analogy --
The original ship (mainstream Church, with associated parish churches visible in every neighborhood) has hit an iceberg, and is sinking. Thousands, maybe 3/4 or more of the passengers, have already drowned (lost the Faith, lost their souls, etc.)
Trads would say, "abandon ship! Into the lifeboats!" and survive until help comes -- only God can solve the Crisis.
Home aloners would indeed jump ship, but refuse to get into any lifeboat, because it's not "legitimate" because they didn't pay the extra fee for "lifeboat service". I know there is no real analogy for it, but basically they think it's not legitimate to attend "illicit" chapels set up by priests who weren't given permission to say the Tridentine Mass. They think the whole Traditional Movement is not allowed or legitimate. So they stay aloof from the Conciliar Church AND the Traditional movement. So Home Aloners stubbornly stay in the ocean by themselves, clinging to a piece of driftwood at best. That is their prudential move.
Where this analogy DOES work so well --
You have 3 options.
1. Stay in the Conciliar sinking ship (where so many have already died, and YOU are likely to die as well)
2. Be stupid and abandon ship without any means to support your life at sea (read: lifeboat)
3. Abandon ship, and make sure to enter one of the many lifeboats available, to preserve your life until help arrives.
Which of the 3 options is the most prudent? I say it's #3. And that's why I'm a Traditional Catholic.