Being a good wife doesn't require taking needless risks with life and limb but, rather, doing so involves at least one sin.
Being a good (x), is contingent upon the good, not the (x).
Just politely, sans attitude, don't go. If he asks, just say "I'm afraid". If he asks why, answer simply, directly, meekly, and humbly.
Endure him "getting it", and let him sort it out, including determining a course of remedial actions; if he asks you, answer.
If he doesn't, zip it and be sweet.
The overwhelming weakness of women and children, provided they're real and not "wielded" like witchery, is not to be underestimated, forbids all "doing", and consists in simply "being".
Catholic chicks are even "worse".