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Accepting all the children God sends
« on: August 07, 2016, 03:54:26 PM »
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    • I'm looking for encouraging Catholic talks or books on this subject. Thanks.
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    « Reply #1 on: August 08, 2016, 12:26:06 AM »
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    • Your Vocation of Love
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    « Reply #2 on: August 08, 2016, 12:39:55 AM »
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    • Angelus Press usually has a good selection of books about family life. The only one I've read and wasn't very impressed with was The Art of Catholic Mothering.
    http://angeluspress.org/Books/Family-Life

    A very quick, easy read here:
    http://amongstlovelythings.com/with-gods-help-how-can-we-fail/
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    « Reply #3 on: August 08, 2016, 12:12:08 PM »
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    • Thank you.

    I'm pregnant with baby # 5. I have 3 children under 4 and I am afraid there is a moment when it will just become unmanageable. I also homeschool. I have not announced this pregnancy to no one, not even my husband ( I am already 13 weeks and feeling a little better from bad morning sickness). I am ashamed to admit it, but I also dread the malicious comments from family and strangers. Specially my own mom is dead against the idea of a large family. I am traumatized by her and the way she has made me feel guilty and ashamed for choosing a domestic life and many children. She has hurt me deeply in the past over this and it became the most divisive issue between her and I, which totally broke our relationship. I am an only child so it has been very hard. I do not really have support (emotional or otherwise) from no one, so it would be helpful to find encouraging resources from other moms who have done it. I am fairly young and at this rate, perhaps we may end up with 10 or 12 children! I want to be a good mom!!!!!
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    « Reply #4 on: August 08, 2016, 12:28:16 PM »
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    • OP, I will pray for you! Hang in there, and know that God will give you the Grace to do it. Before Mass yesterday I was talking to a mother of 13 children. She asked me how I was feeling with this pregnancy and I said I was so tired I could barely function. First trimester really is hard. I was also telling her about the sinking feeling I get when I think about having another baby so soon after the last (was pregnant 3 months after last baby was born). When I asked her how on earth she did it, she shook her head, and with very kind, empathetic eyes, she said, "You just do. You just.... do." That, believe it or not, was the most encouraging words that I have found so far. It wasn't advice, just empathy. It is so good knowing that there are other mothers out there going through the same thing, and many mothers that have went through it and are very saintly because of it.
    You are doing great, hang in there!
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    « Reply #5 on: August 08, 2016, 03:55:32 PM »
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    • Know that if you're at the 3-4-5 children point, you're at the hardest (physically) that it's going to get. They're all little, they can't help much, and you're outnumbered.

    As they get older, it's not just that they can help out around the house, but they can help with the younger children too.

    I hear the teenage years come with their own unique challenges, but I'm not there yet.
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    « Reply #6 on: August 08, 2016, 06:19:28 PM »
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    • A few practical suggestions:
    Make to-do lists for activities daily, weekly, monthly, yearly   List only the essentials.  Weekly-- Yes. Clean bathroom. No. Remodel and decorate bathroom.  Daily--Yes. Family Rosary. No. Full Compline.
    Prioritize the lists.  Example. Daily chores. 1. Everyone washed & dressed. 2. Make breakfast. 3. Nurse baby. 4. Scholars start independent work. 5. Make beds. 6. Wash in machine. 6. Baby in playpen or napping. 7. Teach morning lesson....
    Make an approximate schedule.  Up at 6:30, 7:00 prayers, 7:30 breakfast, 8:00 nursing, scholars to schoolroom...
    Include the children in as much as possible.  A three year old can guide his two year old sibling to put dirty pajamas in a wash basket.  As the children get older, things will get easier because they can do more.  
    See if your husband can help with maybe one household chore per day, something quick and convenient.  Put the dishes in the sinful of warm soapy water on his way out to work for the day.  
    Don't try to have a showcase home; you won't have one with many children, and it's not priority.  Your husband and children are your priority.  Aim for basic sanitation unless you can afford a maid!  Better a messy home full of love than a neat house full of stress and strife.  Save the thorough clean-up for guests, special holidays.
    Pray throughout your busy days and nights for the special graces granted you through marriage.
    Don't be ashamed to ask others for help.
    May Our Lord and Our Lady give you peace of mind.
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