Author Topic: relative just started cohabitating (Read 1386 times)

Änσnymσus · « **on:** March 22, 2016, 02:42:30 PM »

My niece, who is not a trad, just shacked up with her boyfriend. We have always been very friendly towards her and always had her over for the main holidays and the kids just love her. On top of this the next time that she comes, she will bring her boyfriend with her. She told me that. She thinks the kids would love her boyfriend because he is great with kids according to her.

With this turn of events, should she be allowed in our home? The children are very close to her and look forward always to the holidays when she visits. blocking the children from seeing her may cause hurt feelings for them and possible rejection from my family. They (my family) are very supportive of her.

Has anyone gone through this?

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #1 on:** March 22, 2016, 03:05:15 PM »

I don't see why not

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #2 on:** March 22, 2016, 03:20:15 PM »

Have nothing to do with her and let her know why.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #3 on:** March 22, 2016, 03:44:11 PM »

She's openly living in sin and has declared so. You have some sort of obligation to reject this living arrangement. My family has had to deal with this situation before and the rule would be (in this case): She can come over anytime but she cannot bring the boyfriend, as to do so would be condoning the relationship (and confuse your children). The moment they stop living in sin, he could come over.

Stubborn · « **Reply #4 on:** March 22, 2016, 04:19:16 PM »

Both her and him would have had to hide, or they would have been severely smitten by everyone back in the good old days - and they both, without any shred of doubt, would have known what they were doing was not only a blasphemous scandal and a terrible sin, but morally and socially unacceptable as well.

Forget the human respect weakness and ban her from your home and family as long as she remains a public sinner. In so doing, you give your children a Catholic example as well as let them know what they can expect from the family should they decide to shack up later in life, should they decide to live in sin rather than live by the rules of God in the Catholic faith.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #5 on:** March 22, 2016, 05:00:24 PM »

I would ban them both.

Our daughter is doing the same. She comes to the house(family) the boyfriend never comes. She has been hurt about it. But we spoke to her why. Once it is said, it is said, out in the open. She is in sin, scandal and Christ did say, it would be better to put mill stone around ones neck then to scandal these innocent ones.
By allowing her in the home, would be a sing that she is welcomed, as she is.

You have the right of what comes in and what goes out your door. Start now, you will have more to face as your family grows.

poche · « **Reply #6 on:** March 24, 2016, 12:34:08 AM »

Would the fact that she is living with this man without the benefit of marriage be known to the children?

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #7 on:** March 24, 2016, 07:30:48 PM »

"Young women will become unblushing... . Young people will decline in vigour, they will despise those who shall have hoary hair (older people); there shall be no standard by which morals may be regulated, and marriages will be solemnized without witnesses. Troublous shall be the latter ages of the world..." -Prophecy of St. Columba

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #8 on:** March 24, 2016, 09:01:38 PM »

When children are involved, sadly, then you may choose to remain in their lives for the sake of the children. Otherwise, do not socialize with them. Also, if they prohibit you from saying anything about Christ and the fact that they have souls to their children, then you have greater reason to never see them again.

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