I will often go the graves of my deceased relatives and, after praying for the repose of their souls, "talk" to them. I'm not actually trying to commune with the dead, or any other occult nonsense, I just miss them very much, and find it soothing to say a few things to them.
One of the people at my chapel saw me doing this, and said that it was a useless endeavor, and was probably sinful because I am presuming that they are in Heaven. She said souls in Purgatory or Hell cannot hear me, I should only pray to canonized saints, and even if my relatives were canonized, I should only pray to them and not carry on useless conversations with them.
Was this woman correct?