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JezusDeKoning said:
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I suppose the criteria for a good Catholic husband would be:

1) He truly follows Catholic faith and morals.
2) He must have a good trade to support a family.
3) He is open to the number of children God sends.
4) He leads the family.
5) He has a sound decorum


I agree with this list. Number 1 being the most important, of course. I would add he NOT having any addictions, which is a major red flag. Additions to anything, alcohol, drugs, video games, and other unchaste vices, too filthy to even mention here. 

Also, not being "feminized", like the classic "pajama boy", but a real man who does not expect his wife to go to work, help pay the bills, equal house chores, believer in equal rights, etc....in sum, all the ultra-egalitarian nonsense of modern times.


I would hope that the man contributes to house chores, too. Otherwise, he's a spoiled child if he expects his wife to do all the cooking and cleaning.


I'm curious since when in history, (before the raise of Feminism, that is) were husbands expected to cook and clean?

It seems to me that such expectation goes hand in hand with the Modernist usurpation of roles between the sexes.
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St Ignatius said:
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I would hope that the man contributes to house chores, too. Otherwise, he's a spoiled child if he expects his wife to do all the cooking and cleaning.

And... next, I suppose you'll say that the wife is a spoiled brat if she doesn't leave her children alone while she changes the oil in the car, fixes the leaky roof, chops firewood, shovels the sidewalk of snow, fixes the lawnmower...


When my husband is gone, I have to shovel the sidewalk and driveway.  Although my oldest sons usually do it,  But I have had to do it before.  I can change a tire and have done it before because my husband wasn't with me.  Although midway through a man did stop to help.

I have taught my sons to cook and clean.  They can also change babies' diapers.

There is this belief that men aren't supposed to help out with household chores or "women's work," and women aren't supposed to do "men's work."  This is a silly thing.

My grandparents lived on a farm.  My grandmother hunted, chopped wood, killed chickens, fed hogs.  My grandfather could braid my hair, cook, and was really good at cleaning the bathroom.

Being clean and productive around the house isn't delegated to just women.  Being helpful and productive in maintaining a home isn't just delegated to men.

Women are supposed to be help mates to their husbands, not their slaves.  Husbands are not just supposed to go out and work, hunt, and mess things up and then come home and demand attention and affection.  This is not how God made us.

I have seen some really unhappy and abused wives in traditional circles. I have seen women with 10 or 12 children all under age 13 running around completely exhausted and frustrated because her husband won't change a diaper, give a kid a bath, or cook the dinner while she cleans up vomit.  I have seen husbands go to work 10 hours a day and have to come home to shovel the driveway, fix the dryer, fix the leaky sink, and change the tail light bulb before the sun goes down or he can eat his dinner. 

None of this is helpful or necessary.  We are to help each other at all times.  90% of the time, I do all the cleaning, cooking, shopping, and educating the children.  But sometimes I get sick or have to be somewhere else for something important.  The same with my husband.  It's just wrong to let the house go or the kids unfed and dirty because it's not your job.

Men and women are made differently, yes.  And we were made to complement each other.

My husband thinks logically and systematically.  I think more emotionally.  If we didn't consult each other on raising the children, discipline, spending, etc, what a mess our family life would be. I know families right now that are an absolute mess because the husband doesn't listen to the wife and the wife doesn't listen to the husband. 

Married life is a sacrifice for both husbands and wives.  It's not just a place for husbands to be emotionally absent and disconnected because they are focusing on their careers or hobbies.  And it's not a place for the wives to be materially disconnected by focusing on the rearing of the children.

I guess God just blessed me with a husband who is willing to help me when I am frustrated or tired.  I guess God just blessed my husband with a wife who is perfectly willing to chop wood and run the tiller.  I like to help my husband with those tasks, and I like to know that I won't fall apart if he gets sick or dies.  And I'm glad to know that my children will be fed and clean if something happens to me.



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I agree with the woman who wrote in this image. I firmly believe in following traditional biblical roles as opposed to modern marital egalitarian teamwork.

I think everything works smoothly and everyone is happier when there are expected boundaries and clearly established male and female roles within the marriage. I do not see any "slavery" involved in any of the roles. I think that is a feminist lie and a way that foolish women victimize themselves. Daily tasks such as cooking, cleaning, and of course, looking after children, is not slavery, but part of the God's given role to women, that of being the nurturer, of bringing harmony and joy to the home and where women's natural qualities excel.

When usurpation occurs, it is recipe for disaster.
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