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Next Summer, my husband and I will be celebrating out 50th Wedding Anniversary. If it is God's Will we still be alive.

Although he was not Catholic when we married in Church 50 years ago, so we did not have a Mass, just a simple ceremony. He is Catholic today!

We would like to renew our wedding vows at a Mass next Summer.

So my questions are:
I have never been to such celebration before. Is it proper to wear white, or is it better to wear a different color?
We want this to be a private affair, the Mass, just our family, small wedding renew. If others just come that is okay too. We just don’t want a big production, and get lost in the religious aspect.

Is it okay to have my granddaughters escort me down the aisle? Do I even walk down the aisle; what is proper? I was thinking if my granddaughters 6 of them can escort/ walk with me, they can wear their graduation dresses, all are different but modest, prom like dresses. (Graduated from the Mount) within the last few years.

I was thinking of having the younger ones accompany me instead of the older granddaughters, also 6 of them, (still in school), but one of them is novus ordo and won’t be able to receive Holy Communion, which might cause hurt feelings within that family.

Any other ideas would be appreciated.

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I think white is still very proper... Else, how about choosing your fave color this time? It would add a little taste of your personality!

As for the escort, I guess it would be better if the older grandkids would do that for you.

There you go my advice... and happy anniversary in advance!!! :rahrah:
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Thanks so much, you don't know how I appreciate this. Especially about the color white.

I have a whole year to plan but since I have not had a Mass at my original wedding I am really excited about this.
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I was hoping someone who's seen this before in a Trad parish would jump in. I've seen several vow renewals in NO churches (my aunt/uncle just reached 50 years a couple of months ago) which seemed appropriately done. I've not seen anything before, though, which resembled a wedding outside the vows themselves.

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I think its unsuitable to wear white at a vow renewal, as its a symbol of virginity. It was customary for the father to walk the bride down the aisle to give her away. Since you are already married wouldn't it make more sense for you and your husband to walk down the aisle together.

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Thanks so much, this is what I need to know.

I was worried about the color white too, this very pretty dress I was looking at comes in white and a champagne color.
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To make the event special, I would choose some less-symbolic areas. For example, choose flowers of some significance -- perhaps mimicing those from your wedding -- to decorate the altar.

My aunt/uncle invited back those of their original wedding party and had them sit at the head table at the reception, but they were not involved during Mass in any way.

Also, do have your grandsons serve Mass or any singers in your family assist with the hymns.

If you'd like to be escorted in by someone, I would have them do so just before Mass. As treadingwater said, you're not being "given away" again, so it would be more equivalent to the seating of mothers before a wedding. (I think this is what my aunt/uncle did -- she was escorted in by one of her sons (as her grandkids are mostly female and the only boy was already assisting with music) with her husband following just behind. They did this just before Mass began.)

Just my 2 cents ... I'm sure others have more and better ideas. : )

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Yes, I have 3 grandsons who serve at the altar of God, excellent suggestion.
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White as the bridal color was not common at all until 1840 when Queen Victoria wore it so she could incorporate some lace she owned.

Traditionally, wedding dresses were very bold colors and the only rule (aside from modesty of course) was that you wear the most expensive dress befitting your level in life. The poor would usually wear their best Mass dress and the rich would wear furs and velvet, etc.

The color choice is entirely up to you and you should not worry about wearing white if you want to because it has no relevance in a Catholic wedding. It does not symbolize virginity - it symbolizes people following the fashion of Queen Victoria the protestant false-queen of England in the 1800s.

In fact, blue is traditionally the color of purity - not white and the white gown is only symbolic as a baptismal gown in the Church.

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